Key of success

                                       Key of success
We can not find our happiness anywhere but it is within  us by our  action. Happiness is not a postponing action, it is the action of present. The good thing in our life is just enjoy our present moment. This moment is our life. We should practice to appreciate small small  things,because 1000's of small things are making  a big thing. The Curve of smile make your life straight. Yes ;not better knowledge give happiness but better attitude. When you focus on what you have rather than what you don't have, then  you could  find your happiness.

I  have wondered that Happiness definition has been changing  over the time.

At 500 BC -Happiness is defined in terms of dignity
At 400BC -Happiness is equal to peacefulness
At 300BC- Happiness depends on our self (Aristotle)
At 10th century -Happiness is measured in terms of knowledge of spirituality
At 16th century - Happiness defined in terms of outcome of their effort
At 19th century - Happiness is defined by doing actions

 In 21st century,happiness is defined in terms of success.People are thinking that getting  success make them  happy. But in my view, Being happy make you to get success.The more happy you are can achieve success more.

Happy people might give 30% more sales in their organization.

They could be 3 times more creative.

31% more productive.

19% more accurate.

10% more engaged.

Happier people are more productive and more healthier. So in my perception ,happiness is the key of success. 

Special note when you thrive for success

When we thrive for a success, we might fall  into traps of success. I recognized four traps of success.

Greedy

Some people don't feel satisfaction at all in whatever they achieve. They  want to become  more and more famous. They  want to become wealthy more and more. They feel always hunger for fame and wealth. Stay hunger will pull you in the the  big trap of unhappiness.

Unmatched Pond

When we choose a pond which is very bigger than what you really need ,then we are falling into an inferior  thoughts of  trap .Sometimes when you see highly qualified people only around you ,then it will give you inferior thoughts that pull you in to the trap of unhappiness.

Copying other's goal

Sometimes we will follow other's goal blindly.Each people strengths are unique. For example after seeing Dhoni's  cricket excellence, you may put effort to become like him without analyzing your own strength. That means you are simply copying other's success in your life which might lead you to fall into the trap of unhappiness. When we work towards our own  goal  then it makes us happy.

Time to Think

1.Are you in a right pond of success?.

    refer here to find your right pond

2.Are you balancing your inner joy and success?

Refer here to find your success and joy balance

3.How to get the key of success?

Click here to find the recipe of happiness

All the best to use your right  key to get the treasure of success!

How are you running in a race of life

How  are you running in a  race of life

"As every runner knows, running is about more than just putting one foot in front of the other; it is about our lifestyle and who we are."
- Joan Benoit Samuelson (American Marathon Champion).

Life is like a marathon. Everyone is running in their own track to reach their goal.. But how they are running is what matters. I have learned two kinds of running in my life.

Running away from the fear

One time I had a plan to go to leasing office from my home by walk. While going on the way ,one goose started to chase me, so I have started running back to my home. Yes. I ran really hard  but in the wrong direction because of my fear  .In the same way people are running in their life just to get rid of the fear or problem  instead of running towards the goal.
When you run with fear, instead of taking two steps forward you may either take one step back or change the direction.

Running towards a goal

Next time I fixed my problem(goose chasing) before I start .So I reached my destination in a right time. So solving problem is important to reach your target.

 How to solve a problem
If I had a 60 minutes to solve the problem ,I spend 55 minutes to define the problem and 5 minutes to solve the problem.  The formulation of the problem is often more essential than its solution, which may be merely a matter of mathematical or experimental skill"

Albert Einstein

You need to understand the problem and the roots of problem first before you find the solution.I would like to share with you all about 3 strategies to solve problem.

 1.Trial and error strategy
 A trial-and-error approach means trying a number of different solutions and ruling out those that do not work. It will work only when you have less option. Otherwise you need to narrow the options first then you could use this strategies.

2.Algorithm
 This strategy is a step-by-step procedure that will always produce a correct solution.
For example using instruction manual for new software installation.

3.Heuristics
A heuristic is a mental shortcut that allows people to solve problems and make judgments quickly and efficiently. This strategy will  shorten the decision-making time and allow people to function without constantly stopping to think about their next course of action. That means practice n practice!

In my perception,

         Fix your problem before you start !!

          All the very best to  run in your own track!!

"I always loved running…it was something you could do by yourself, and under your own power. You could go in any direction, fast or slow as you wanted, fighting the wind if you felt like it, seeking out new sights just on the strength of your feet and the courage of your lungs" Jesse Owens (Track and field athlete).

Persuasion is an Art

 Persuasion is an Art

Words are powerful in the way we use. No matter how much you are  raising your voice but   matter is how you are constructing your words. In my view, persuasion is working  from born stage to grave stage. In this post ,I want to share some persuasion techniques with you all .

 Credible

Usually we don't put much attention to follow a diet  if our friend or relative suggest .But we will put much attention to follow when doctor prescribe a diet. That is credible.

                           Yes ;when you persuade someone about one thing, they will look at you what credit you have under the particular thing .It  is necessary to let them know about how much experience you have ,how much academic skills you have and how much you have prepared yourself to present and so on.

Highlight you are similar to them

  Once I happened to ask  my daughter why you like this friend more than other friends. She answered that we both like same color; we both like to read fiction books; we both like to play hide n seek'. I have laughed  at her answer. But really that is genuine answer. We like people who like what we like. According to ( Byrne psychologist ) 1966 experiment, high percentage of people want to be partner with similar liking people. If someone different from us , we don't listen to them much.

                         When we persuade people ,we should show them we are like you only. For example as a teacher when you persuade your students ,you could say  that I too faced the situation what you are facing now and so on.

You are free

We're a government that believes in everybody having the illusion of free will.”

― Anthony Burgess, The Wanting Seed

God doesn't want  about making good things  or bad things happen to you. He is giving you making choices;exercising the gift of free will. Everyone wants to lead our life by their own free will. Especially youth wants to use their free will. While persuading someone ,When you  include 'you have the free will to choose ' ,then  they might  get persuade more.

Giving reason while persuading 

People are generally better persuaded by the reasons which they have themselves discovered than by those which have come into the mind of others.”

― Blaise Pascal, (French Physicist)

From 3 year old child to big adults everyone will have the hunger of  'why'. That is wise hunger. So it is important to give logical reason while persuasion.

 Tips while giving reasons

Quantity or quality matters

 short and sweet reasons  will work  better in my view.That means, quality of one reason is work better than 10 unimportant reasons.

How to choose reason

 When you choose reason to give,you need to consider about what kind of the people they are.Are they individualistic or collective oriented .

Individualistic people

Individualistic people are focused on their own life success. They  don't much think about society. They will look for logic reasoning like research report, statistics,  analysis  and all .So we should give reasoning according to them while persuading.

Collective people

Collective people are focused about their family and the people around them too ;they might be emotional .They will look for how the results will affect their family ,society and all. So according to them you need to find the reasons.

                          For example when I was a teacher ,I had  nearly 70% collective students only. So I have given much importance to emotional reasons to my students. So analyze your audience before persuading them.

In my perception,

No matter how much you are raising your voice, matter is how you are constructing your words!

Who are you in the OCEAN

Who are you in  the OCEAN

Each of us is a unique strand in the intricate web of life and here to make a contribution.”
― Deepak Chopra (Public speaker)

One time an  older fish came to a new pond and met  a small fish .Then the older fish asked to the small fish ,How is this water, Is it good ?".The small fish replied that " Where is water here".I thought What a funny answer..But This answer have made me to to think ..Do we  know about us that where we are in morally; Who really we  are? What is our top strengths and bottom line strengths. We are  wondering  about all the God's creature.But We are the one God's best creature in the world.I want to share very few things about how we are special.
                              My very first point is  you are here not because of just accident but it is an incident made by God for a special purpose.You are here to fulfill your life calling  in the world.When you understand about yourself  then only you can find out your life calling.

In our body so many things are going without our consciousness.For example
⦁ Five million receptors are working together  to smell a thing.
⦁ 9000 taste buds are working just to taste one piece of cake.
⦁ We are producing 10000  gallons of saliva in a life time.
⦁ Nearly we have 100 millions cells in our body;each cell have our unique DNA.
⦁ Our body is producing 180 million new blood cell every hour.
⦁ Our heart create enough energy to drive a truck for 20 miles.In life time, we can create energy to drive to moon and come back.

You are  a special person.“Stay true to yourself. An original is worth more than a copy.When you are comparing with other,then you are degrading your creator. Be unique;Be proud about who you are.Originals cost always has more valuer than copies.
 
"Never stop fighting until you arrive at your destined place - that is, the unique you. Have an aim in life, continuously acquire knowledge, work hard, and have perseverance to realize the great life". Dr.A. P. J. Abdul Kalam.(11th president of India)

Human thoughts are deeper and deeper like OCEAN.We can figure it out what is our personality trait in the OCEAN.I am inviting you all to find and identify your own trait among the OCEAN of traits.Our character is what we do when we think no one is looking 😊.Go and find out who you are!

                                             OCEAN TRAIT TABLE

Trait	High score	Low score
Openness(Imagination,feeling,action,ideas)	Curious,wide range of interest,independent	Practical,conventional,prefer routine
Conscientiousness(confidence,self discipline,goal driven)	Hard working,organized,dependable	Impulsive,careless,disorganised
Extroversion(sociability,assertiveness,emotional expression)	Outgoing,warm,seek adventure	Quit,reserved,withdrawn
Agreeableness(Cooperative,trust worthy,good natured)	Helpful,empathetic,trusting	Critical,uncooperative,suspicious
Nueriticism(tendency towards unstable emotions)	Anxious,unhappy,prone to negative emotion	Calm,even tempered,secured

In my perception,

                 You are special when you identify who you are!!


Reference
The book of psychology,OPen stax college,RICE University