How to motivate kids

How to motivate Kids

One time, I went to conference with my kid's teacher to discuss about  her academic performance.That time I noticed that teacher told her 'You are a hard working student'.Then I had a question Why she appreciated her work not her intelligent.After a while I got an answer of my question.I would like to share my answer of 'Why praising their effort is better than praising their intelligence.

              Intelligence vs effort praise (Mueller Dweck,1998) research found that,

1.Effort praising students are showing high persistence  in their studies than intelligence praising kids.

Effort praising kids -5.5  points
intelligence praising kids-3 points

2.Effort praising kids have more willing to choose  challenging questions  than Intelligence praising kids

 Effort praising kids   -80%
intelligence praising kids-40%

3.Effort praising kids are more honest (in presenting score) than  Intelligence praising kids.

 Effort praising kids   -40%
intelligence praising kids-15%

              When we appreciate about their hard work ,they will get encouragement to keep on working. Nowadays I am appreciating my kid's hard working.

“Hard work beats talent when talent fails to work hard.” ― Kevin Durant (American NBA champion)

In my perception,
 Success is not only depend on your intelligence but how hard work you did .
All the very best for your achievements;Keep going.!

Find your diamonds

Find your  four diamonds

“Do not let the roles you play in life make you forget who you are.”― Roy T. Bennett (author of light in the heart)

  I have listened this story from Wharton school's professor  Richard Shell lecture(University of Penn) .This story gave me a  good guidance in my life .Once upon a time,one farmer lived in a small village  near to the river. One day a  big priest  came to his home.The priest felt happy because of his hospitality.So the priest said to him ,If you search   the rock ,you can find 4 diamonds under the water.After the Priest left his home, he sold his house to somebody .Then he went to all the rocks and big mountain to search the diamonds .He was started searching the diamond in  all the small to big mountains in the earth for 15 years.Finally he got so depressed, he killed himself.In the same time,the person who got his home went to his backyard to relax his mind . Then he found some thing glittering on the water under the small rock.He went and found the four diamonds.

 In the same way we are searching everywhere to find  your life meaning.But the truth is your life meaning is within you only.How to find the four diamonds within you?

Diamond 1

Go and find seed

We all have youthful interest or passion.Just go and look back at your 8 to 15 years  old time,ask yourself what you really enjoyed,what was the thing gave you excitement? you might ask your childhood friend and parents too.Go and find your own soul capacity of  seed which is hiding inside you for the opportunity to come out.The little seed need some water to bloom and it will become incredible powerful.

Diamond 2

Special aptitude and skill

You may go through skill assessment,career coach,career counseling where you can sense your special aptitude skill.When you find which skill you have most,then you can think how you will apply those skills in your career.Some people good at numbers,some other people good at words,some people good at making new relationship,some people good at problem solving,some people good at following rules,some people good at design new things.Go and find you are good at what.

Diamond 3

Accumulate your experience

What are the experience you got in your life.List out the experience you got as well as what you learned from those experience.Experience is the best teacher ever.So accumulate all the experience and make meaning to that work.

Diamond 4

Personality

“I want freedom for the full expression of my personality.” ―Mahatma Gandhi.Everyone personality is unique.All the characters are good .Are you introvert or extrovert character.What are the emotions you feel most.What are the virtues you have? define your personality in terms of your seed.Personalty could uplift one person.Beauty might attract people but good personality make connection with people.

Exercise

Take a small piece of paper and write it down according to the four diamonds,What is your youth interests,what are the skills you have, what are the experience you got and what kind of personality you are.Keep this paper with you.This paper reminds you who you are ,what is your heart,what is your mind and what is your memory.

In my perception,

Live your life in the way of who you are.

All the very best for your own unique way!

Intelligence

Intelligence

The real sign of  intelligence  is  not just answering the question or knowledge but it is asking question in a new way or imagining new thing.Intelligence is the key of your dream..
“The measure of intelligence is the ability to change.” -Albert Einstein

             Intelligence is making unexpected things from expected things.According to psychologist ,there are 6 kinds of Intelligence.

Crystallized intelligence
This intelligence involves simply learning ,remembering and recalling when you need it.Simply it is a knowledge.As we age and accumulate new knowledge and understanding, crystallized intelligence becomes stronger.We Can gather this kind of intelligence anywhere,anyway and at any age.No age limit to learn.

Fluid intelligence
Fluid intelligence is the  ability of think abstractly, reasoning, identifying patterns, solving  problems, and discerning  relationships. Fluid intelligence peaks in adolescence age or teenage and it  starts  to decline progressively from age 40.

Practical intelligence
Practical Intelligence is the knowledge acquired doing everyday activities through various means. This knowledge cannot be imparted. It is the art of doing the right thing and the right time , or saying the right thing ant the right time to the right person, or applying the right knowledge at the right time.Simply behave depends on experience or common sense.

Analytical Intelligence
Analytical intelligence includes academic tasks, problem-solving abilities, and abstract reasoning. Whenever you have to complete a task that requires you to compare, contrast, evaluate, analyze, or make a logical judgment, you are using analytical intelligence.

Emotional intelligence
It is the capacity of identifying their own emotion and other people emotion and the ability discriminate the different kind of emotion and the power how to use the emotion to shape their life.

Creativity
he capacity to generate or form unique work, concepts, methods, or ideas.creativity might sparked by conversation with others.In order to be creative, you need to be able to view things in new ways or from a different perspective. Among other things, you need to be able to generate new possibilities or new alternatives.

Note

⦁ Learning has no age limit       
⦁ We need all kind of intelligence throughout your life.
⦁ When we overuse crystallized intelligence,then we will loose the power of fluid intelligence.

In my perception,

No matter how much you memorized ,matter is how you are applying those thing in life!.

All the very best for making new matters; no matter what is your age.

Reference
The book of Psychology ;Open stax college; Rice University

Memory is incredible one

Memory is Incredible One

One of my friend got a  small tumor in her brain.So she was not able to remember any names at all  until her surgery to remove the tumor. She struggled a lot those period.I recognized that Our life survival mainly depends on our life.Without memory of past we might  not live today easily .Without memory  we can not remember who I am ,who you are ,who they are,what is dangerous,what to eat,how to ask  so on.Memory is the main thing in learning.

Memory is more indelible than ink.” 
― Anita Loos (American script writer)

“Memory is the means by which we draw on our past experiences in order to use this information in the present’ (Sternberg, 1999).(Psychologist)

                                             I would like to share about how information are stored in brain. Our brain has 3 kind of stage to store data.

A. Sensory Storage 
 Very initial storage where information store in faction of seconds only .Here it store the information as it is.the immediate, initial recording of sensory information.Visual image store for a 1/4 s,audible information store for a 3s.
                       When we receive information from sensing part (eye,ear) our brain will compare those information according  to long term memory to find a match for this new information. One more main thing is our perception.For example,If you consider it is important then it will pass to next stage of memory otherwise just it will go off.

Short term memory
It is a limited capacity storage where information store for 20s to 30s.for example your friend is telling some number to you to call 87634551289.As I mentioned short term storage has less storage,so it remember 1st two numbers  (87)and last two numbers(89) and it will push out in between numbers.But when you do rehearsal that means practice those numbers then it will go in to long term memory.By practice we can send those information in to long term memory.
             When I teach new language or subject to my daughter,I will compare with what she known well then it will go easily to long term memory.

Long term memory
It is unlimited storage ans it can keep information for a long period.There are 3 kinds of memory.

procedural memory
     It stores our behaviour for example how to eat.

Semantic memory
 It sores general world  facts and knowledge.

Episodic memory
It stores events,people ,place.

In my perception,

Memory is incredibly one in our life.

Reference

The book of Psychology ;Open stax college; Rice University

Degree of Happiness

Degree of Happiness

Happiness is not something about future but it is the special design of your present. Happiness is choice of how you are taking  your situation.   Humans are pleasure  addicted .They will strive to get pleasure. When you buy a new car ,you might be happy for a month. When you win lottery you might be happy for 3 months .When you marry,you might be on exciting  for a year.According to psychology study,

 50% of happiness is depends on What is your heredity
40% of happiness is depends on What you are doing intentionally to make you happy.
10% of happiness depends on your life circumstances.

  If  I am happy means ,it doesn't mean I don't have any problems but I have the ability to face it. We can not measure happiness in terms of what you have like money and success. But it is solely defined by our own mind set. When I live in Chennai ,I felt 60 degree Fahrenheit is cold weather .But I felt the same temperature is warm weather when I stayed Minneapolis ,U.S.A. How  much you have happy is measured by you alone ;don't try to measure your happiness with others tool. Pains ,sadness and failures will help you to measure your happiness. We should think happiness is not our destination but make it as your journey.

I have the recipe to make happiness
Ingredients

1 cup positive emotion
1 cup optimism
1 cup  love
1 cup self respect
1/2 cup humor
2cup gratitude

Mix all together in the big bowl of family.And freeze it in a spirituality freezer.When you keep it in freezer ,it don't spoil ever.
                         You taste it
                                   share to others
                                                  you enjoy it.
In my perception,

Be happy and make other people to be happy

All the very best for your happy journey of life

                              

                                                                                   

Memory Retrieval

Memory Retrieval

"May you never forget what is worth remembering, nor ever remember what is best forgotten”
 Irish Blessings quotes

Remembering means retrieval from memory.It must be retrieved when information has been encoded and stored in memory.There are 4 basic ways to pull information from your long term memory.

Recall
Recall mean information from memory is accessible without clue.

Recollection
This is reconstruction type of retrieval.From example For example, writing an answer on an essay exam often involves remembering bits of information and then restructuring the remaining information based on these partial memories..

Recognition
This kind of retrieval based on identifying information after experiencing it again. For example answering multiple choice quiz that you recognize the correct answer out of a group of available answers.

Relearning
Once I taught my daughter Hindi .Because of some situation she didn't learn for a year.So I thought she can not retrieve it again.But she did.She catched again what I thought already.That means This type of memory retrieval involves relearning information that has been previously learned.

Tips for students while learning

1.Use elaborate rehearsal
   Rehearsal means not only practicing again and again but study deeply.When you study you understand or find the answer of why,what ,how which .Simply don't mug up.study with meaning.

Apply self reference effect
Write notes while reading books or listening lecture.Do comparison with your real fife that means put reference what you know well.
Be aware of interference
Be aware about what distortion will come and confuse your memory in the part of your learning.
Use mnemonic codes
You can use some acronyms  to remember big things.For example, bbroygreat brittan very good wife -this is the mnemonic code to identify the resistor value which I learned 12 years back.

Get enough sleep
Sleep will refresh your mind and body.It is good have a good sleep before exams.

Keep moving
walk and study make better learning method rather than sitting in one place for long time.

In my perception,

Doing  smart work (practice using mnemonic codes) is work better than keep on practicing (hard work)

All the very best to retrieve your best memories!

Reference
The book of Psychology ;Open stax college; Rice University