Cousins are celebrities

Cousins are  celebrities for  kids

Me and my siblings are ended up staying in different countries.We decided that despite the miles separating our kids, we would make regular visits happen.,so that our kids can know the joy of growing up with their cousins around.

I was lucky to had lot of cousins when I was growing up.Some of my cousins were close to my home town and my all other cousins were far from my home town.But we did gathering at festive time and summer vacation time.I had lot of fun when we play ,cook ,fight and roam around my town.

 I want to share about psychological benefits of  spending  time with their cousins from my side  and my kids side(yes,very recently I have met my cousins and my kids met their cousins).

 psychological benefits of  spending  time with their cousins


Cousins are ready made friends for your kids.They’re related to you. So it’s an  stronger bond. It’s easy to get along with  cousins because we usually know each other from a really young age.

Our kids will vent to their cousins. Some time this think made me little sad. But it also makes me happy to know they’ll always have someone to reach out to that will understand where they are coming from.

Our kids gets moral support from them.

They may get into little tiffs here and there, but the love they share runs deep. Even when they grow up, if they drift apart—there will always be an understanding that they would do anything for one another.

Our kids  will try to understand their parents characters (abnormal characters too).I will  be little  mad when my kids play mobile games for long time.My nephew shared his memories with my kid that how I was strict with him when he use video games.Now my daughter understood why I am like that.

Nobody will understand the craziness of your family better than your cousins.When they’re older they’ll be able to laugh and joke about the specific aspects of our family and hey that doesn’t bother me. It’s nice to know they’ll have someone to confide in.

Kids are learning to share.My daughter know how to share toys with her own sister.But after this cousin gathering she learned how to share the toys  with more kids.She learned to play group games.
 Allowing our children to develop social skills at their own pace.cousins are playing sibling role as well as friends.So that our kids  begin to truly interact , and experience what happens when they do.

They protect each other.These guys can fight and argue with the best of ‘em. They have cousin rivalry. They like to tease each other and steal the specific toy the other one is playing with. But they protect and defend each other when necessary. It’s so comforting to see these moments of protection.

Cousins are the people with whom you can share your secrets with, and the people who won’t judge you for anything – after all, you are family. Cousins are also often the people who can offer you the best advice and can be your shoulder to cry on or the person who will listen to you when you need someone to talk to.

Cousins helps to remember their childhood stage.Cousins are usually people you grow up with and get along with when you’re young so you will always share memories together from your childhood. It’s always fun when you meet up with your cousins to reminisce about all the old childhood memories you shared together.

Cousins may not always be there with your kids, but they will always be there for them.A cousin may not always be there as they are not part of your immediate family but are a part of your extended family. However, they will always be there for your kids because they are related to you and they love you. A cousin will always be on hand to offer advice and to listen to your kids when your kids need someone to talk to.

Finally ,being a few people is not a family.Family means lots! Lot of people n lot of love!

In my perception,

Cousins would be the cover of your kids life book !

                 Enjoy the summer vacation with your cousins and let your kids enjoy their vacations with their cousins!.

Happy vacation Days !

Accept ;then Act

Accept; then  

                       Act!!

I was worried when my car driver took a new  route instead of my known one due to road work  to reach my home town .I missed my fun  moment of long drive because of the new direction.We want to reach our destiny as we planned.We are getting disappointment when unexpected situation arises  to reach destination.

Some times acceptance is the best choice rather than asking why it is.We should not confuse acceptance with defeat or denial.“Acceptance of one’s life has nothing to do with resignation; it does not mean running away from the struggle. On the contrary, it means accepting it as it comes, with all the handicaps of heredity, of suffering, of psychological complexes and injustices.”-Paul Tournier.We should put effort to change the things if it is changeable;but accept those are unchangeable in your life.Acceptance is the invitation of what else are not in your control.

We can not control other's emotions like faithful,love,gratitude.But you can  have the control of your emotions that means  you can control the response of what else happened by others.

Accept the life as it is and take lesson for your future to make and construct relationship.

People go in to depression and suicide attempt those who are have less acceptance skill.

It is easy to advice to have acceptance.But many opportunities will cross us to embrace acceptance..Even I took long period  to learn this lesson.I have learned ,Not only courage moments but discourage moments also part of my destiny.I am enjoying the frozen let it go song with my kids.

Happiness is directly proportional to acceptance;but indirectly proportional to the expectation.

I want to give you Some tips to practice acceptance which I learned from my life.

1.Acknowledge yourself -you are unique;accept who you are.

2.Understand the reality -Understanding and working with reality is purposeful. Acknowledging your reality will help you choose your dreams wisely and then help you achieve them.

3.Recognize your role.-Accept your part of work wherever it is.Ask yourself questions related to your current situation to help work toward solutions.To Ask yourself questions related to your current situation to help work toward solutions.

4.Understand your mistakes -Analyze your mistake as a learning stone.

5.Stand in your way -Don't much think about others view.

In my perception,

Maturity is not by age but by their acceptance skill they posses.